“She carried a notebook with her everywhere and brimmed with ideas. She often woke in the night and switched on the light to scribble down her thoughts.”—The Tea Chest by Josephine Moon (via treesofreverie)
“Write it, even if you think it’s terrible. Don’t prevent yourself from jotting down a word, phrase, or paragraph just because it “isn’t quite right” or “it won’t work.” Maybe it will, maybe it won’t, but it’s better to write it down, you can always edit later. And you don’t want to stop yourself before you even get started! The point isn’t to use everything you write. You can’t be expected to pop out perfect prose your first time out! Write now, edit later.”—Cristine Grace (via writetothestars)
“I have a pet theory that there are two kinds of people in the world: the kind comforted by knowing other people have problems similar to their own, and the kind comforted by knowing other people have problems very different from their own. I am decidedly of the latter category. Sitting in my dirty shoebox of an apartment in Brooklyn, thinking of insurance claims yet to be filed, essays to be finished and irritating relatives who need to be called back, I become easily convinced that a life with headaches in wild contrast to mine would be better. I escape not into the warm, familiar embrace of Girls or Brooklyn-based novels by Jenny Offill, but into the lives and obstacles of pearl divers off the coast of Japan, young brides awaiting marriage in Jerusalem, melancholy wives in post-war London.”—Kelsey Osgood reviews Waiting for the Electricity by Christina Nichol (via therumpus)
What men mean when they talk about their “crazy” ex-girlfriend is often that she was someone who cried a lot, or texted too often, or had an eating disorder, or wanted too much/too little sex, or generally felt anything beyond the realm of emotionally undemanding agreement. That does not make these women crazy. That makes those women human beings, who have flaws, and emotional weak spots. However, deciding that any behavior that he does not like must be insane– well, that does make a man a jerk.
And when men do this on a regular basis, remember that, if you are a woman, you are not the exception. You are not so cool and fabulous and levelheaded that they will totally get where you are coming from when you show emotions other than “pleasant agreement.”
When men say “most women are crazy, but not you, you’re so cool” the subtext is not, “I love you, be the mother to my children.” The subtext is “do not step out of line, here.” If you get close enough to the men who say things like this, eventually, you will do something that they do not find pleasant. They will decide you are crazy, because this is something they have already decided about women in general.
“Step one. Suppose you clear away all the happinesses that you distrust? Step two. Clear away all the unhappinesses that you have come to trust. Get rid of them too, don’t count on your miseries or your titillations. What will be left behind? Perhaps, after you’ve cleaned all that out, you might find in the back of your cupboard something like the theme of the Goldberg Variations. A deeply trustable happiness. A tender, discombobulating — but not discombobulated! — smile with just enough sadness and loss in it to be believable, to be endurable.”—
Jeremy Denk's beautiful meditation on ”the mishmash of reverence and irreverence” in Bach’s Goldberg Variations.
“Oh my God, what if you wake up some day, and you’re 65, or 75, and you never got your memoir or novel written; or you didn’t go swimming in warm pools and oceans all those years because your thighs were jiggly and you had a nice big comfortable tummy; or you were just so strung out on perfectionism and people-pleasing that you forgot to have a big juicy creative life, of imagination and radical silliness and staring off into space like when you were a kid? It’s going to break your heart. Don’t let this happen.”—Anne Lamott (via creatingaquietmind)